9-6-2010

I was driving home from an errand tonight, when on the radio I hear a guy propose to his girlfriend and then dedicate Everything by Michael Bublé to her. Awwwwwwwww. Melt.

Anyway, I got to thinking about how sweet that was and how every girl is looking for a fairy tale story like that. I even had a couple of my youth texting and calling me this week for guy advice. I feel like I am hardly an expert in that area, given that I am single and 25 (and 5 months... today. Not that I'm counting), but I gave the best advice I could, and I am going to do the same here.

I look around at my friends and acquaintances and see so many girls getting messed up over the "men" in their lives. I use the term "men" very loosely. I am so sick of seeing the ladies in my life settle for less than they deserve.

Let me say this: If a guy you are seeing takes his concentration off of you for a moment, even to just consider the thought of another female, he is not worth your time. Girls, ladies, students... whoever you are... PLEASE realize your self worth. Ladies, you deserve a man who will stand up for what he believes in, first of all priorities being God, and secondly being his relationships. If he doesn't truely value the people already in his life, what makes you think he will value you any more. To add to that, if he can't sacrifice of himself for the God of the universe, what makes you think he will give of himself to better you?

I'm not saying all this to be mean or bitter, I am saying this to inspire you to respect yourself enough to choose someone who will treat you right. Take it from someone who has made the mistakes already, you do not want to make the wrong choice. Sure, love seems so fun at first, but use your head and I dare you to use your faith too. Seek the will of God in the situation. See if you have a true peace about having a future with this person.

How boring right? I know! But if it takes a few boring years right now while you (with God's help) select the right person its worth it, because your future will be much smoother... and may I say, it will NOT be boring. =)

Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for. Ladies, I urge you to focus on yourself and your future before diving into some intimate relationship with a guy. Find out who you are, what you want to be, how you really want to portray who you are. Educate yourself, reach out in your community, make a difference in someone's life. These things will build character and confidence in your life. You will begin to feel great in your own skin and you will know who you really are and where you want to take your life. Confidence is attractive to guys. They love a girl who knows what she wants.

Before you date someone seriously, learn to treat yourself how you would want to be treated. Guys will always follow your example. If you disrespect yourself, he will have no problem doing the same thing. And after all, all we want is a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T, right? Hahahahaha, ok, I couldn't resist.

Don't get me wrong, it will not always be easy. Sometimes, Mr. Wrong looks sooooo right. And sometimes Mr. Right looks all wrong. Even I have had my challenges. Its not like I can glance at a guy and know if he will be willing to put up with a person who struggles with medical issues. Would he be interested in being involved with someone who has to be cut open and operated on? Its not always easy, and we all have our issues, whatever they may be.

Ladies, if you take one thing away from this, please understand that God is your all-sustaining life support system. Without Him you have nothing- no direstion, no hope for a future, no true love. Let God be your Knight in Shining Armor, until He is ready to give you to the one He created for you.